Confessions of a Professional Overthinker: How I’m Surviving My 20s (Just Barely)

Are you people not happy for me? Be happy nah😂😂😂

Oya let me be serious! so here is the thing, I’ve been in my 20’s a few years in now, and if there’s one thing I’ve mastered, it’s overthinking. I’m not talking about the occasional “Should I wear the black gown or the blue one?” kind of overthinking, Nah Nah, I am talking about full on, 2AM “I must have accidentally insulted the lady that attended to me at Globus supermarket last week” or what if I get to church late on my wedding day, does that mean they will join my husband with chair?” overthinking, to be honest It’s a gift.

Let’s talk about how I’m navigating my 20s. First, I’m supposed to be an adult, right? But somehow, I still panic when I see my to-do list or list of things to pay for. Do I really need to pay bills? Can’t I just be Lady Margaret Delacourt in “the princess switch” and live a life of luxury.

If you’re also in your 20s, you know the struggle. We’re told to “live our best lives,” but honestly, One minute, I am drinking garri for dinner (again), and the next minute, I’m reading a “5 Tips For Adulting Like a Boss” article and wondering if I’m the only one not taking notes. Adulting is like a game where everyone else has the cheat codes, and I’m just here hoping I can make it through. (surviving feels like a major win).

But here’s the secret, no one has it all together. Like, not even Beyoncé. Sure, she’s out there looking flawless, but I’m convinced she’s also Googling “How to survive Monday” like the rest of us. It’s okay to admit we’re just winging it, sometimes with style, sometimes with the grace of God (can’t do anything without Baba God), and sometimes with a Nescafé 3 in 1 (I like my coffee with milk and sugar).

I know we’re all supposed to be out here slaying it, but sometimes ehn, the most dramatic thing I do is successfully is apply lip gloss (God abeg) even if I make a cup of tea, it will still spill. So small wins, my friends.

in this space, it’s not always pretty, but it’s real and if you’re here for the ride, I’m happy to have you. Buckle up, because we’re about to make some questionable decisions together. No perfection, no pretending, just me stumbling through this adventure of adulthood and trying to enjoy the chaos while laughing at myself along the way.

Dede.